Janet is a veterinarian who often comes to play in the clay
with me when she has a day off. She is very creative-- and surely the only vet I
know who actually makes “abodes” for toads!
Most of us have had beloved pets over whom we’ve made hard
decisions and then grieved. I still miss Atticus years later, and long after
adopting another great rescue dog. I can only imagine how hard it is for the
veterinarian whose job it is to facilitate those end of life choices, and I
know I have been most grateful for those who truly empathize with the pet
owner’s loss. It means a lot when a vet (like other people) communicates that
he or she feels that loss with you. It’s not just a medical intervention; it’s
a personal experience—and a tough one.
Janet recently decided to begin making ornaments with the pet’s
names to give to the people who have had to make those judgments and are
missing their animal friends. A simple heart will never make up for the loss
after some cat or dog or other creature has left paw prints all over our hearts
for a good number of years, but it can go a long way toward letting someone
know that you care and share in their mourning. I have made several grave
markers for friends’ dogs when they died, and they have been much appreciated
by Gus’s, Fancy’s, and Benjie’s people. A marker can be quite a job (and being
thick, it takes forever to dry), but a small memento can
mean a whole lot too! They can be in any shape and perhaps don’t even need the
pet’s name on them. It’s the sharing that counts.